Today was Denver's 3rd day of school. We decided with the ECI referral that he needed to be around other little toddling people and to have some social exposure to kids his age and see other children walking for mobility. The only time he is around other children is on Sundays during and after church. I did a ton of research on preschools in our area. There weren't many places with openings where I would actually leave him. We did find the Goddard School in Cedar Park which is a neighboring community to us. We decided to enroll him for Tuesdays and Thursdays from 9am - 3pm. I liked especially that the school has time devoted to outside play and indoor gym time and the school is cirriculium based. They have a real kiddy gym which is a cross between an indoor playground and a pediatric physical/occupational therapy gym. Seeing him go with Dave the first morning broke my heart. I cried A LOT. When I picked him up. It was mommy bliss because he crawled like a fende to get to me when I came in. They have reported mostly good things--really good that he loves the gym time. I witnessesd him roll his little friend John around inside a sylynder. Den walked while pushing John who weighs as much as Denver does. This seemed like progress.
When I arrived today for pick up, Ms. Debbie (his teacher) said he had an incident with another child. I paniced at first. Apparently Denver was playing with a toy another child wanted and that child bit Denver on the shoulder. She showed me the bitemark and truly there wasn't much there. The mark had lightened considerably and no bloodshed. She apologized and I said it wasn't a big deal since he was OK. I did ask which child and of course because of confidentiality, she couldn't tell me. She had me sign an incident report--a bit much for a class of 12 - 18 month olds... Oddly, she did say he defended himself well. I couldn't help but wonder if the biter got an incident report for whatever Denver did in defense. I didn't press for any more details. One of my matras is "pick your battles"--so I let this one go. I had a twinge of mommy guilt that I wasn't there to stop it, but trying to let that go... as I type...
How this all started...
I have known for a long time that I wanted to be a mom. It seemed that life's circumstances didn't lend themselves to my dream becoming a reality until I met David. It seemed we were meant to be parents--TOGETHER. We both love children. Our dream wasn't that much different than other couples our age. We began our journey toward parenthood shortly after we got married in August 2004. We thought we would have kids the way other couples do; pregnancy, then childbirth. When it became apparent we would have significant difficulty conceiving, we tried quickly to turn that tough news into an opportunity. Easy enough, right? We would adopt. There were plenty of babies out there that needed parents. Not so easy (for us at least). Since it happens that David and I both use wheelchairs to get around in our daily lives we were met with some opposition and some really great support.
We were confident we would be awesome parents with determination, ingenuity, and mentoring from other parents who have had kids, support from our friends family, our faith community...We'd do (and are doing) just fine. Even though families with one or both parents disabled have been raising children very successfully for a long time, we met significant opposition from adoption professionals and agencies. With every rejection we faced, our determination to be parents was fueled. We pressed on--we wouldn't take no for an answer. Several agencies, social workers, birth mothers and almost two years later, on December 31st, 2007, we brought our baby Denver home.
I kept resolving to blog after Den came home and then which each big milestone, holiday, or other life event, I'd say to myself--"I really need to start my blog." I had decided that I would begin blogging when Denver took his first steps and even call the blog: Denver Walks--Mommy Blogs. I altered my plan slightly. Denver turned 15 months on March 29th. Boy time flies. Fast forward to today-- for my 1st official blog post, thanks for reading & WELCOME!
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
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